Philip’s Secret Life Away From the Palace — And What It Cost

Philip's Secret Life Away From the Palace — And What It Cost

Philip was born on June 10, 1921, at Mon Repos, a summer residence on the Greek island of Corfu. He was the fifth child and only son of Prince Andrew of Greece and Denmark and Princess Alice of Battenberg. His four elder sisters were born between 1905 and 1914.

In 1922, Greece was enduring a major military catastrophe. The Greek campaign against Turkey had ended at Smyrna in a fire that killed tens of thousands. Prince Andrew was among the officers court-martialed in the aftermath. Several officers tried alongside him were convicted and shot.

The British government intervened on his behalf. King George V dispatched a naval officer to Athens to argue for clemency. Prince Andrew was sentenced to perpetual banishment from Greece rather than execution.

In December 1922, the family boarded HMS Calypso and left Greek territory. Philip was 18 months old. He was carried aboard in a container improvised from a fruit box because the speed of departure had not allowed for conventional transport of an infant.

The family settled in Saint Cloud, in the western suburbs of Paris. Prince Andrew had no occupation and no income beyond what sympathetic relatives could provide. He was charming and agreeable in drawing rooms but not particularly useful in offices.

The area contained a great deal of displaced European royalty in the 1920s. Greek royals, Russian grand dukes, and Austro-Hungarian archduchesses gathered in houses in Paris and constructed a social world organized around shared recollection of things that no longer existed.

Philip grew up in the margins of this world. He inherited fluency in multiple languages and an understanding of the gap between nominal and actual rank. He also learned that arrangements based on what one used to have had a limited practical yield.

Prince Andrew found by the mid-1930s that Monaco suited him considerably better than Paris. He settled there with a French companion. He and Princess Alice had effectively separated by this point.

Alice was a more complicated case. She was the daughter of Prince Louis of Battenberg and Princess Victoria of Hesse, making her a great-granddaughter of Queen Victoria. She had been deaf from birth.

In 1930, when Philip was 9 years old, Alice experienced a mental collapse of sufficient severity that she required institutionalization. She was placed in a clinic in Germany, then a facility in Switzerland. She was separated from her children for several years.

Philip was 9 years old when his mother was removed from his daily life. His father was increasingly peripheral. His four sisters were of an age to be preparing for marriages of their own, which meant marriages in Germany.

He moved between relatives. He spent time with his grandmother, Princess Victoria, the Marchioness of Milford Haven, who was sufficiently organized and attentive to understand what her grandson required. He also spent time with his uncle George Milford Haven, a naval officer and someone Philip genuinely liked.

George Milford Haven died of bone cancer in 1938. Philip was 17.

Alice eventually recovered. She founded a Greek Orthodox nursing sisterhood and took religious vows, becoming Sister Andrew. She lived in Athens for decades in conditions of genuine poverty and remarkable spiritual commitment.

She survived the German occupation of Greece during the Second World War by remaining in her apartment in Athens, where she sheltered a Jewish family. She was eventually recognized by Israel as Righteous Among the Nations.

She moved to Buckingham Palace in the final years of her life at Philip's arrangement and died there in December 1969.

Lord Louis Mountbatten was the other significant figure in Philip's formation. Mountbatten was Philip's maternal uncle, known as Dickie, a rising naval officer of genuine capability. He saw in his nephew a young man of real ability who needed directing toward the right institutions.

Mountbatten also had in Philip a potential vehicle for the continuation of Battenberg-Mountbatten influence in the British royal family. A nephew married to the heir to the British throne would be a very substantial addition to the family's position.

Philip arrived at Gordonstoun in 1934, aged 12. The school was built on the Moray Firth coast of northeastern Scotland. Its founder, Kurt Hahn, held that privilege without difficulty produced people who could not function under pressure.

The school required cold water, early mornings, rescue service training, seamanship, and sustained physical exertion. Philip took to it. He became physically capable and confident in the ways the school valued.

He also developed a directness in his dealings with people that would later produce what palace press officers called gaffes. He held views and expressed them with a frequency and clarity that those around him found alternately refreshing and alarming.

His sister Cecil was killed in November 1937 when the aircraft carrying her, her husband, their two young sons, and their mother-in-law crashed near Ostend in Belgium. Philip was 16. He was taken from Gordonstoun to Germany for the funeral.

He left Gordonstoun in 1939 and went to the Royal Naval College at Dartmouth. Britain declared war on Germany in September. He was 18.

Philip served in the Royal Navy during the Second World War in the active and specific sense of that phrase. He was at sea on ships that were in genuine danger performing duties that required demonstrated competence.

His first posting was to HMS Ramillies, a battleship operating in the Indian Ocean. He was then transferred to HMS Shropshire and subsequently assigned to the Mediterranean Fleet aboard HMS Valiant.

At the Battle of Cape Matapan in March 1941, Philip operated the aft searchlights aboard HMS Valiant. He was directly responsible for illuminating the Italian ships for the British guns at the moment of greatest tactical importance. Admiral Cunningham mentioned him in dispatches. Philip was 19 years old.

He was mentioned in dispatches again during the summer of 1943 when HMS Wallace was operating in support of the Allied landings in Sicily. During one engagement, he improvised a response to an air attack by deploying rafts fitted with flares to create a decoy target and a smoke screen. He was 21.

He finished the war in the Pacific, serving aboard HMS Whelp. On September 2, 1945, HMS Whelp was in Tokyo Bay when Japan signed the formal instrument of surrender aboard USS Missouri. Philip was 24 years old.

The Navy gave Philip something that nothing afterward could substitute for. It was the foundational experience of his adult identity. What counted was whether he was competent under pressure, whether he could be relied on when the decision carried real consequences.

He had, in the years between the wedding in 1947 and the accession in 1952, made a genuine attempt to remain a naval officer alongside his public duties. In October 1950, he was given command of HMS Magpie, a frigate, and served as her commanding officer for the best part of a year.

When George VI died in February 1952 and Elizabeth became queen, the navy ended. There was no decision to be made. The Queen of England's husband does not command frigates.

Philip had met Princess Elizabeth at Dartmouth in July 1939 when George VI brought his family for an official inspection of the college. Philip was 18. The elder daughter was 13. Philip showed off. He jumped a tennis net to demonstrate his athletic gifts.

The correspondence continued through the war. By the time the war ended and both of them were adults, the correspondence had become sufficiently legible in its intent that people had begun to treat the question of what would happen next as an institutional matter.

The institutional consideration was complicated by everything Philip's background contained. His nationality was technically Greek and Danish. Three of his four sisters were still married to their German husbands in 1945. His father had died in Monaco in the company of a French mistress. His mother had spent years in a Swiss clinic.

King George VI was cautious. Queen Elizabeth, who would become the Queen Mother, had reservations that were sharper and more organized. She found Philip rough around the edges. She also did not trust Mountbatten.

Philip was formally prepared for the marriage in the spring and early summer of 1947. He renounced his Greek and Danish royal titles. He was received into the Church of England. He became a British subject on February 28, 1947, at which point he was Lieutenant Philip Mountbatten, Royal Navy.

The engagement was announced on July 10, 1947. The wedding was at Westminster Abbey on November 20. George VI created him Duke of Edinburgh, Earl of Merioneth, and Baron Greenwich on the morning of the ceremony. Philip was 26. She was 21.

What he had agreed to was comprehensive. He had agreed to walk behind his wife at every public occasion. He had agreed to subordinate his name, his career, his political opinions, and his independent institutional existence to the requirements of a constitutional monarchy.

The name question arrived before anything else. George VI died on February 6, 1952. Elizabeth became queen at the age of 25 while she was in Kenya with Philip.

Philip wanted his children to bear the name Mountbatten. The name Windsor had been adopted by the royal family in 1917. The palace had no interest in becoming Mountbatten because the consort preferred it.

The decision was made by Queen Mary, confirmed by Winston Churchill and the cabinet. The children would be Windsor. Philip was described by people who knew him at the time as genuinely and persistently angry about this.

He told at least one person that he was the only man in the country who was not allowed to give his name to his own children. A partial resolution arrived in 1960 when the Queen declared that descendants of the family who were not entitled to the style of royal highness would carry the hyphenated name Mountbatten-Windsor.

The early years of the reign were the years in which the shape of Philip's professional life became fully visible. The Duke of Edinburgh's Award, which he launched in 1956, was the project through which his student formation found its most comprehensive and durable public expression.

The award applied Hahn's framework to a wider population, with a physical section, a skills section, a service section, and for the higher levels an expedition. It reached over the decades millions of young people across more than a hundred countries.

Philip followed its operations with the kind of engaged interest that distinguished his genuine commitments from his ceremonial ones. He asked questions about whether it was actually working rather than merely appearing to work.

The official schedule was, in its daily texture, an experience of being the most important person in a series of rooms. The people who arranged to meet Philip in those rooms had organized the meeting around his presence rather than around a mutual interest. They were, in the social sense, pointed at him.

The Thursday Club emerged in this period. It met at Wheeler's restaurant in Old Compton Street in Soho every Thursday evening, beginning in the late 1940s and continuing through most of the following decade.

Wheeler's was a fish restaurant of genuine quality in premises that were not grand. The room was in the heart of Soho, which in the 1950s was a genuinely cosmopolitan neighborhood of artists, journalists, theatrical figures, and exiles.

The membership of the club was not defined by formal rules. There were no minutes, no membership cards, no constitution. What there was was a gathering of people who regularly ate well, drank steadily, and operated according to the shared understanding that the room was the business of the people in it and nobody outside it.

The social architecture was provided by Baron Nahum, known without exception as Baron, the most sought-after social photographer in London. Baron and Philip had become friends in the way that people who make each other's daily existence more manageable sometimes become friends.

Baron died of a heart attack in November 1956 at 50 years old.

The membership at various points included Peter Ustinov, who occupied Thursday evenings with the conversational energy of a man for whom performance and existence were not separable activities. There were journalists from the major papers, artists, film people, and writers.

For Philip, the specific value was the absence of any relationship to official position. He was not consort at Wheelers. He was a man at a table with other men who found his company worth having rather than his title worth attending to.

Among the extended social world of the club was Stephen Ward. Ward was an osteopath whose practice had accumulated a patient list drawn from the titled and powerful. He was also a gifted draftsman.

Ward would become, in 1963, the central figure in the Profumo affair, the scandal that connected John Profumo, the Secretary of State for War, a Soviet naval attaché named Yevgeny Ivanov, and a young woman named Christine Keeler.

Ward was prosecuted for living on immoral earnings. He was convicted. He died of a drug overdose the morning the verdict was delivered before he could be sentenced.

Philip's connection to Ward through the Thursday Club social territory was a connection of proximity rather than any established participation in what Ward was specifically running. They had been in the same rooms, at the same tables, in the same social world.

The Thursday Club was described in tones suggesting a minor bohemian dining club of no particular consequence. This description was not entirely accurate, but it was the version allowed to stand.

Mike Parker occupied a different position in Philip's social world. Parker was Australian, born in Melbourne in 1920, and had served in the Royal Navy in the Pacific War in circumstances that brought him and Philip together with the specific intimacy of men who have shared dangerous and unusual conditions.

Parker became Philip's equerry in 1947, the year of the wedding, and occupied that role for a decade. The equerry manages schedule, travel, correspondence, and the daily logistics of a life conducted mostly in public.

Parker knew what Philip did on the evenings not covered by the official schedule. He arranged a significant proportion of those evenings.

The specific incident most reliably attached to Philip's private life in the early years of the marriage took place in 1948 and involved Pat Kirkwood. Kirkwood was among the most celebrated performers working in the West End at that time, performing at the London Hippodrome in a production called Starlight Roof.

Philip and Baron Nahum attended her performance. They met her afterward. The evening continued to Les Ambassadeurs, a fashionable nightclub in Hamilton Place near Hyde Park Corner.

What happened after Les Ambassadeurs is the question that Pat Kirkwood spent the rest of her life answering. Kirkwood's answer was consistent. Nothing had happened. Philip had been charming and entirely proper.

She said this in interviews. She said it in her memoir. She pursued legal action in the cases where published accounts came sufficiently close to actionable assertion.

She communicated through the sustained energy and specificity of her denials that she considered the entire business a significant and continuing injustice. The one person whose public statement would have settled the question had decided not to provide it.

Philip himself, asked on various occasions through the years whether he had anything to say about the Kirkwood association, declined to say anything. The palace's standard response was no response at all.

Kirkwood was a working actress whose professional reputation was being permanently colored by an association she maintained was false and that she could not correct because the one person capable of correcting it had calculated that the correction cost more for him than the silence cost for her.

Kirkwood died in 2007, having never received the simple public statement that would have settled the question. The palace made no statement at her death.

Helene Cordet was a different kind of case. She was Helene Foufounis, with whom Philip had been friends in Paris during the Paris years of his adolescence. The friendship was the product of proximity and compatible temperament.

Helene eventually came to London. She married briefly, had children, and eventually ran a fashionable nightclub called the Saddle Room. Philip was godfather to Helene's two children, a son named Max and a daughter named Louise.

The question of the children's paternity had been in London society throughout this period one of those questions asked in corners after sufficient drinks and answered with a shrug or a raised eyebrow rather than with any specific evidence.

Helene had the opportunity in a biography published well after the period in question to name the children's father directly. She chose to arrange her language around the question in a way that preserved its ambiguity rather than resolving it.

Philip never addressed the question publicly. The palace never commented.

The broader landscape of Philip's social life through the 1950s was the social life of a vigorous and energetic man of considerable physical appeal and considerable institutional protection. The palace's cover was real and comprehensive.

The Commonwealth tour of 1956 to 1957 brought the private question into public view. Philip departed on October 15, 1956, aboard the Royal Yacht Britannia.

The stated purpose was a Commonwealth tour organized primarily around opening the Antarctic base established for the Commonwealth Trans-Antarctic Expedition. Philip was genuinely interested in this undertaking.

The Suez Crisis erupted 10 days after Philip's departure on October 29, 1956, when British and French forces attacked Egypt in coordination with Israel. The crisis ran through November and ended with the Anglo-French withdrawal under American pressure.

It happened while the Queen was managing the constitutional and political consequences in London, including the fall of Anthony Eden, and her husband was sailing through the Pacific toward Antarctica.

Philip did not return early. He continued the tour.

During the tour, Philip and Parker moved through Australia, New Zealand, and the various Pacific territories. The yacht was a self-contained world that traveled, with a staff and a social structure organized around Philip's preferences.

Parker's situation had been deteriorating along lines apparent to those close to him for some time. The marriage to Eileen had reached the point where continuation required either a significant change in circumstances or a formal conclusion.

Eileen Parker made a decision in January 1957 to begin divorce proceedings. The proceedings became public knowledge.

Someone with access to the information told a journalist. The journalist was working for an American publication called The American Weekly, distributed through the Hearst organization.

The American Weekly assembled the length of Philip's absence, the nature of Parker's role as Philip's personal companion on the tour, the divorce proceedings, and the general texture of what could be implied about the preceding months, and presented the combination in February 1957 as evidence that the royal marriage was under serious strain.

Buckingham Palace responded on January 8, 1957, while Philip was still at sea. The palace issued a formal statement saying there was no truth to the rumors of a rift between the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh.

The word rift appeared directly in the denial. This was the first time in the Queen's reign that the palace had issued anything resembling a specific press statement directed at a specific category of rumor about the state of the royal marriage.

Parker resigned as equerry before Philip's return to Britain. The timing was clean in the institutional sense.

Philip accepted the resignation with the sadness he brought to things he had decided could not be remedied. Parker was, in the institutional sense, removed.

The friendship between them survived the removal as genuine friendships sometimes survive institutional necessities. Parker died in Melbourne in 2001 without having said anything in the public record that could be read as bitterness about the circumstances of his departure.

Philip returned to Britain on February 22, 1957. On that same day, the Queen created him Prince of the United Kingdom.

What Elizabeth knew about her husband's private life, and when she knew it, and what she did with the knowledge. These are the questions the palace has never answered.

Elizabeth was not a person who failed to notice things. She had grown up inside an institution that ran on precise information about human behavior.

Her documented response to the question of Philip's private behavior is the absence of a documented response, which is not the same as the absence of a response.

The palace's decisions about how to manage Philip's social world over the decades required authorization at the highest level. The palace did not issue formal denials of marital rifts without the Queen's knowledge, and almost certainly not without her instruction.

The arrangement between them appears to have been organized around the principle that Philip's private life was his own matter so long as it did not produce consequences the palace could not contain, and so long as the marriage continued to function in its public and formal dimensions in the ways the institution required.

The Queen Mother's views on Philip were less successfully concealed. She found him rough in 1947 and she found him rough in 1957 in ways that were now more specifically evidenced.

Philip's relationship with his eldest son is the portion of his private life most thoroughly examined in public because Charles eventually chose to speak about it with specificity.

Philip understood formation through challenge because that was how he had been formed. The logic he drew from this experience was that challenge was the productive element and comfort the counterproductive one.

Charles was not a child who responded to this logic in the ways Philip expected. He was sensitive in the specific sense that criticism landed on him in ways it did not land on people with a different emotional constitution. He was artistic and inward-looking.

Philip sent Charles to Gordonstoun in 1962, aged 13. This decision was made against the expressed concerns of people who had observed Charles closely enough to understand that what Gordonstoun had done for Philip was unlikely to be replicated in his eldest son.

What Gordonstoun did to Charles was several years of documented misery. Charles described his time there in terms vivid enough to have come from ongoing experience rather than distant memory.

Philip's response to reports of his son's unhappiness was not to reconsider the decision. He held to it because that was what holding a decision meant to him.

They found eventually, in middle age, a version of the relationship that was workable rather than hostile. The functional version arrived at the expense of the years it took to reach it, and the cost of those years was paid primarily by Charles.

Philip's relationship with Anne was easier from the beginning. Anne had from childhood something of her father's physical confidence and competitive disposition. She became a formidable equestrian, representing Great Britain at the 1976 Montreal Olympics.

Andrew, born in February 1960, was in his early years the son with whom Philip's relationship appeared most directly comfortable. He was vigorous and bold and visibly similar to his father.

Edward, born in March 1964, navigated his own path between his father's expectations and the life he chose to live. The decision, in his young adulthood, to leave the Royal Marines training was received by his father in the compressed manner Philip applied to disappointments.

The last significant chapter of Philip's private life was conducted with less concealment than anything that had preceded it. He was in his 80s, and the particular kind of discretion required of younger men in his position was no longer practically achievable.

Penelope Knatchbull, known universally as Penny, was the wife of Norton Knatchbull, who was the grandson of Lord Louis Mountbatten. The connection to the Mountbatten line ran directly through the family that had shaped the beginning of Philip's story.

Norton Knatchbull had been born in 1947, the year of Philip's wedding. His grandfather Mountbatten was murdered by the IRA in August 1979, killed by a bomb placed on his boat during a fishing trip off the coast of County Sligo in Ireland, along with Norton's 14-year-old twin brother Nicholas.

Penny Eastwood had married Norton Knatchbull in February 1979, shortly before the murder of his grandfather.

The closeness between Philip and Penny became visible in its sustained intimacy in the 1990s. Some accounts connect this timing to a family tragedy in the Knatchbull household. In 1991, Penny and Norton's son Nicholas died of cancer at the age of five.

Philip is said by people who knew both families to have been a consistent and specific support to Penny during this period.

From the early 2000s onward, Penny was a regular presence at Sandringham and Balmoral and at occasions that were personal rather than official. She rode with Philip. She was photographed with him on multiple occasions at multiple locations over multiple years.

The palace's response to questions about the friendship was the palace's consistent response, which was silence. And in this instance, the silence was eventually abandoned. The management effort that would have been required to complicate the photographs was more expensive than simply allowing them to exist.

Philip retired from public duties on August 2, 2017. He was 96 years old and had performed the duties of consort for 65 years, attending 22,000 solo engagements.

He moved primarily to Wood Farm on the Sandringham estate, which is a small house by the standards of the properties available to him. He drove an aged Land Rover around the estate.

In January 2019, at 97, he was involved in a road collision near the estate when his Land Rover was struck by another vehicle. He emerged without injury. The other occupants of the other vehicles sustained minor injuries.

He did eventually surrender the license, reportedly under some pressure from multiple directions.

He died on April 9, 2021, at Windsor Castle, 9 weeks before his 100th birthday. The pandemic restrictions meant that his funeral at St. George's Chapel was attended by 30 mourners.

The Queen sat alone in a pew in a gray coat and black veil, at the distance from everyone else that the regulations required. She was 94 years old. They had been married for 73 years.

She died on September 8, 2022, at Balmoral, 15 months after Philip. Philip's coffin was moved from the Royal Vault at Windsor to lie alongside hers. They were buried together in the King George VI Memorial Chapel at Windsor Castle.

The cost of Philip's private life does not resolve into a single accountable figure because the costs were particular, distributed among specific people in specific forms, and most of them were not paid by Philip.

Pat Kirkwood paid in the form of a permanent association with a story she maintained throughout her life was false. She spent decades fighting the association and died in 2007 having never received the single public statement that would have settled it.

Helene Cordet and her children paid a cost organized around a question that was never answered and never required to be answered because the institutional protection surrounding Philip extended to the adjacent territory in ways that served his interests rather than theirs.

Parker paid the most explicitly institutional cost. He was Philip's closest professional companion and genuine friend for a decade, removed from that position within days when the situation required it.

Charles paid a cost that was more diffuse and longer-lasting, built into the structure of a relationship rather than any specific incident. Philip's difficulty with his eldest son was not deliberate cruelty. It was the specific failure of a man formed by hardship to understand that hardship does not produce the same result in everyone.

Elizabeth paid a cost that cannot be quantified because she never quantified it. She maintained a marriage of 73 years to a man who was, in various documented respects, not a conventional husband and did so without visible indication that the maintenance cost more than she was prepared to spend.

Philip paid a cost that was both the most fundamental and the most chosen. He gave up the Navy, which was the one place in his life where his worth was self-produced rather than assigned by circumstance or title. He gave up his name for his children initially and then only partially.

He found in the Thursday Club and in the various other configurations of his private life partial substitutes for what the official life could not provide.

He was not a simple man who had been made complicated by the palace. He was a complicated man whose complications the palace had both exploited and managed for seven decades, extracting from him everything useful while containing everything inconvenient.

He gave them value. They gave him cover.

He walked behind his wife for the better part of a century. He found other directions to walk when the schedule allowed, in Soho on Thursday evenings, in the social world that occupied the spaces between the official ones, and eventually in the company of a woman whose presence at his side he made no serious effort to conceal.

The institution kept the arrangement running for longer than most arrangements of its kind survived because both parties understood what they had agreed to and because the woman at the center of the whole construction was remarkable enough to make the maintenance look from the outside very much like the natural order of things.

It was not the natural order of anything. It was a sustained and expensive achievement, and the people it cost most were not always the ones who had chosen it.