The Dark Story of the Mother and Daughter Trapped in Grey Gardens

The Dark Story of the Mother and Daughter Trapped in Grey Gardens

In the autumn of 1971, two county health inspectors walked up a driveway in East Hampton, New York. At the end of it stood a large shingled house, three stories of weathered gray set back from the Atlantic Ocean.

Two women were living inside. One was 76 years old. The other was 53. They were mother and daughter, and they had the same name.

The older woman was Edith Ewing Bouvier Beale. Her brother had been a Wall Street stockbroker known as Blackjack. Blackjack’s daughter had become the first lady of the United States. The younger woman in the house was Jacqueline Kennedy’s first cousin.

Within weeks, the story was in newspapers all over the country. That is the version most people know. It is also the version that hides what actually happened.

This is not a story about poverty. Poverty is what happens to people who never had anything. This family had a fortune built over a century. In 1948, the man who controlled it died. By the family’s own reckoning, his daughter was left $65,000. That was her share.

In 2017, the house she refused to leave sold for $15.5 million.

The story begins with a legal finding. When a county health department writes that a dwelling is unfit for human habitation, it is not offering an opinion. It is stating that the building can no longer lawfully be occupied.

Those words were applied to the house at 3 West End Road in the fall of 1971. Neighbors had been calling the village for years. They complained about the smell in warm weather and about animals moving between properties. Above all, they complained about the hedge.

The privet had been left to grow until it stood well above the second-story windows. From the road, the house behind it had effectively vanished.

The Beale family had owned the house since the early 1920s. The older woman had been living there for close to 40 years. Her daughter had come back to join her in 1952.

Inspectors from the Suffolk County Health Department judged the conditions unsanitary. There was no running water in the building. There were, in the wording that made it into print, 12 diseased cats.

The house was substantial. Newspapers put it at 28 rooms. Almost none of those rooms were still in use. Doors had been closed on most of the building years earlier, and the two women had settled into a handful of spaces upstairs.

The official response was an ultimatum. Clean the property or lose it. The village had the authority to condemn the structure, and condemnation carried the possibility of demolition.

The younger woman called what had happened a raid. She used that word for the rest of her life. In her telling, these were not officials performing a public duty. They were intruders.

Then the story left East Hampton. A local item was picked up nationally, and the framing wrote itself. Relatives of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis found living in squalor on Long Island.

The older woman had two sons. Both were adults with established careers, and both lived within driving distance. When the board of health reached one of them, he reportedly answered that none of this was new, and that his mother was the original hippie.

That was the response.

The younger son was Bouvier Beale. He was born in Manhattan in February of 1922. He went to Yale and Yale Law. By the time he was 30, he had founded his own firm in New York.

His older brother was Phelan Beale Jr., known to everyone as Fee. He went into journalism. Looking back on the world they had grown up in, he once dismissed the whole of it as all that Great Gatsby stuff.

Their father had been gone from the marriage since the early 1930s. What remained of the family capital sat in trust. By the middle of the 1950s, administration of that trust had passed to the two brothers.

The money that kept two women alive on West End Road was not, in any practical sense, theirs to direct. It was controlled by their sons and brothers.

The sons had a position. Their position was that the property had always been a liability. Too large, too old, too costly to keep standing, and sitting on land that would fetch more with the building cleared off it.

Both brothers took the view that they could not carry it. The sensible course was for their mother to sell and move somewhere she could manage. She would not do it.

So they applied pressure. Both brothers stopped paying for the utilities and the upkeep. This was not neglect. It was a strategy with a clear objective. Make the place unlivable and the people inside it will go.

The shutoffs came one at a time. Power. Heat. Then the slow business of what happens to a large old building when nobody is paying anybody to come out and look at a failing system.

The strategy did not work. It did not work for a very long time, because the two women it was aimed at absorbed everything it did to them. Rooms that could not be heated were shut and forgotten. Bathrooms that stopped functioning were abandoned where they stood.

Each year, the two of them lived a little smaller. Each year they stayed.

The pressure ran for something close to two decades. It never moved either woman off that land. What it produced instead was the situation the county inspectors found when they finally came.

The origins of the family money go back to France in 1815. Napoleon had fallen for the second time, and the men who served him were in serious trouble. One of them was a cabinet maker named Michel Bouvier.

He got out and stopped in Philadelphia. Bouvier worked as a cabinet maker and was good at it. Furniture, though, was not where the money came from.

Making pieces by hand turned into manufacturing them. Manufacturing required timber, and timber required ground. He went into the firewood trade and began buying forest to supply it. Then he kept buying.

By the end, he held something in the region of 800,000 acres. Some of that ground was sitting on coal. A refugee bought woodland to feed a furniture business, and the woodland turned out to be lying on top of the fuel that was about to run industrial America.

The second fortune was made deliberately on Wall Street. Michel Charles Bouvier, known as M.C., was one of Michel’s 10 children. He went into finance and was very good at it.

In the late 1920s, he did the single smartest thing anybody in this story ever did. He got out of the market before it fell. When the crash came, he was largely untouched by it.

His nephew was not. The major had come into roughly $250,000 from his own parents about nine months before the market broke. He lost around half of it.

In 1935, M.C. died. You will find him described as a $7 million man. You will also find a newspaper report of his estate putting the total at just under $3 million. Both can be accurate. Either way, the figure translates to somewhere between $70 and $150 million today.

The major was 68 years old, and by every account, the money changed him. He bought the big place on Further Lane. He installed himself at the head of a summer court that could run to 17 around the dining table.

He also wrote a book. It was privately printed. It was called Our Forebears, and it set out the Bouvier descent from the French nobility in confident detail. Almost none of it was true.

When genealogists went through the actual documents, what turned up on that side of the line were drapers, tailors, glovers, farmers, and domestic servants. The name Bouvier itself translates roughly as cowherd.

The Bouvier money lasted three generations. The story the major printed about it has lasted considerably longer.

Edith Bouvier Beale could sing. Not in the manner women of her class were expected to sing, which meant pleasantly, briefly, and then out of the way. She had a trained voice, and she worked at it.

She was born in October of 1895 in Nutley, New Jersey. The route ahead of her was mapped before she could walk. A good marriage, a good address, children, a seat on the right committees.

What she actually wanted was a career. In her world, in her year of birth, that word did not apply to women like her at all.

She married in January of 1917 at St. Patrick’s Cathedral. She was 21. The groom was Phelan Beale, 35, an attorney from Alabama who had come north and gone into practice with her father.

2,500 people were at the ceremony. 500 came back afterward.

Three children arrived inside five years. Little Edie in November of 1917, Phelan Jr. in 1920, Bouvier in 1922.

In the early 1920s, Phelan Beale bought the property in East Hampton. The building had gone up in 1897. What made it known was the garden.

A previous owner, Anna Gilman Hill, had built a walled garden there that could survive the salt wind coming off the Atlantic. She is also the one who named the place Grey Gardens, for the grey of the dunes, the grey of the sea fog, and the grey-green of the only plants that would grow in that air.

The marriage ended in the summer of 1931. Phelan Beale paid child support. He did not pay alimony, not then, and not when the divorce was finally made formal 15 years later.

A woman of 35 was left with a large seasonal property on the Atlantic coast, three children, and no income attached to her own name. The building was hers. The means to run it were not.

She began selling ground. At one point, she disposed of a section of the property for $11,000 over her father’s objections, simply to keep going.

And she kept singing.

Every other adult in this story wanted something conventional and got it. The law practice, the good address, the seat at the club. She wanted to perform. It was the one ambition available to her that carried no social credit whatsoever, and she pursued it for 40 years.

In 1947, Edith Bouvier Beale moved into the Barbizon Hotel for Women on Lexington Avenue. She was 29 years old, which by the standards of that address made her old.

She had been trying for 11 years already. She went to the Spence School in Manhattan and finished at Miss Porter’s in Connecticut in 1935. Her debut came on New Year’s Day of 1936 at the Pierre Hotel, and the New York Times covered it.

In East Hampton, they called her Body Beautiful Beale. She swam. She competed at tennis. She worked as a clothes model at Macy’s in New York and down in Palm Beach.

Her father did not care for it. By one account, he came across her face in a clothing advertisement and reacted very badly indeed.

Then there is everything she said about those years afterward. There had been offers from Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer and from Paramount. Howard Hughes had been interested. J. Paul Getty, she told people, had proposed marriage.

Then the largest claim of them all. She had been engaged to Joseph Kennedy Jr., eldest of the Kennedy sons, killed flying a mission over Europe in 1944. Had he lived, she said, she would have been first lady instead of her cousin.

Relatives put it differently. Their account is that she met Joseph Kennedy Jr. once. She told these stories consistently for 50 years. The woman doing the telling had very little else left to hold on to.

One relationship in that period is documented by her own hand. In diaries and letters she left to her nephew, Little Edie described an affair in the late 1940s with Julius Albert Krug. He was Secretary of the Interior under President Truman. He was also married with a family.

Then her hair started to fall out. The medical name for what she had is alopecia totalis. It is complete loss across the whole body, and it does not reverse. Before she was 40, there was none of it left.

The head scarves start there. Everything the world would later find charming about her began as a solution to a problem.

In March of 1952, the telephone calls from East Hampton began in earnest. Her mother was unwell, increasingly alone, and running through what little was coming in. She wanted her daughter home.

Little Edie held out for four months. On the 29th of July, 1952, she left the Barbizon and went back to the property on West End Road. She was 34 years old. She would not sleep anywhere else for the next 25 years.

He was 16 years old and he had run away from home. Brooklyn. An Italian-American family, a father in sanitation, a mother who cleaned a school. He got himself out to Long Island and found work doing gardens in East Hampton.

One afternoon, he walked past a place he assumed had been abandoned. So he knocked. The door opened.

Standing behind it was a woman in her 50s draped in a shower curtain with an apron tied around her head. She looked at him and told him he must be the Marble Faun. He had no idea what that meant.

His name was Jerry Torre. And he stayed.

For roughly three years, he was in and out of that door every week doing whatever needed doing. What a 16-year-old walked into was not a horror story. It was a household.

Big Edie ran it from her bed on the second floor. She did not come downstairs much. She directed everything from where she lay. Meals, conversation, visitors, what her daughter wore.

Big Edie liked to see Little Edie change outfits through the course of a day. By one account, she expected as many as 10 changes.

There were the cats, a great many of them, and they had names. There were raccoons in the attic. Rather than drive them out, the two women fed them.

And there was music constantly. Records, the radio, and the two of them singing over both. Arguments ran for hours and settled nothing, then dissolved into affection, then started again.

In 1975, a friend of theirs moved in and stayed 13 months. Lois Wright was a painter and a palm reader, and she kept a journal the whole time.

At some point in those years, a fire started in the upstairs hallway. It was small and it was put out. It left a hole in the wall that anyone who has seen the film has looked at without knowing what caused it.

Jerry Torre left in the end. He worked for a time as an assistant to the puppeteer Wayland Flowers. He went off to tend gardens for the royal family of Saudi Arabia. Then he came back to New York and drove a taxi for years.

In 2005, somebody recognized the driver. He is a sculptor now, trained at the Art Students League. In 2018, he published a memoir about his three years as the Marble Faun.

A magazine on a Manhattan newsstand, 1972. Inside it, a long article by a writer named Gail Sheehy. Her subject was two women in East Hampton.

The Beales let it happen. They opened the door and they talked. A tabloid published photographs taken inside their own rooms. Reporters were received. Questions were answered at length and answered with relish by two women who had not had an audience in 20 years.

It looks like humiliation. Read it again, and it looks like leverage. They had no money, no lawyer of their own, no influence in that village, and no relative willing to act. What they did have, suddenly, was a surname on a front page.

Not one of those articles mentioned that this woman had two grown sons living on Long Island. The alimony her husband never paid went unmentioned. So did the trust. So did the question of who controlled it.

What the coverage did produce was a telephone call. By the summer of that year, Jacqueline Onassis and her sister Lee Radziwill had put money into the property. Reported figures vary between $25,000 and $32,000.

It is worth being precise about what that bought. A plumbing system, a furnace, and a clear out, which removed something in the order of a thousand bags of refuse from the grounds and the rooms.

It is equally worth being precise about what it did not buy. There was no new roof in that figure, and no restoration. Above all, there was no income attached to it.

The work was scoped to one purpose. Bring the building up to village code so the county would withdraw. Which the county duly did.

Big Edie gave her own version of how it ended. After the money went in, she said, her niece told her plainly that they could not go on. One payment. Then the door closed.

Jerry Torre was there for at least one of her visits. She arrived in the round dark glasses she wore everywhere. She took them off. He watched her stand and look at what her aunt was living in, and he says she could not take it in.

The amount that went into East Hampton would not have covered a season of running any one of her homes. And it went in once. No arrangement was made for the roof that would fail next, or the winter after that, or the decade after that.

The problem was fixed the way a scandal gets fixed, not the way a household gets fixed.

A camera loaded with 16 mm film and a portable tape recorder slung on a shoulder. Two men. One carried the picture, the other carried the sound. That was the entire apparatus.

Albert and David Maysles worked in a style that had a name, direct cinema. No lighting rigs, no sit-down interviews, nobody narrating what you were watching, and no script. You turned the camera on, you stayed in the room, and you waited.

They had first come through that door in 1972, hired hands on somebody else’s project about the Bouvier family. When they began pushing for the two residents to become the subject rather than the background, the project was shut down.

So they came back. This time it was theirs.

There was a contract. The family lawyer was involved in the negotiation. Releases were signed before a frame was exposed.

The Beales were paid $5,000 each. They also understood there would be a share of the profits. It never arrived. No share. No residual. Nothing at all in the decades that followed.

And what did they hand over for $5,000? Everything that was left. Their rooms, their meals, their arguments, their singing, their cats, their bodies, their memories, and the exact texture of their dependence on one another.

When the cutting was finished, the picture was carried out to East Hampton and projected for the two of them in the upstairs hall. It went to the New York Film Festival in September of 1975 and into cinemas the following February.

The reception was savage.

Little Edie went to screenings. She turned up, sat in cinemas with paying audiences, and afterward talked to anybody who wanted to talk to her. She was 58 years old, and she had wanted an audience since she was 19. One had finally shown up.

Were they exploited? The answer is no. Exploitation requires somebody who does not understand the deal. These two understood it completely. They had done this before, three years earlier, with the newspapers.

They were not exploited. They were underpaid, which is a different offense and a smaller one, and it is the offense nobody bothers to name.

Because that film never stopped earning. It became a cult object, then a set text, then a Broadway musical that took three Tony Awards, then a television film that won Emmys, then a permanent reference point for designers, photographers, and drag performers on four continents.

A second documentary was assembled from the offcuts. The lost reels from 1972 surfaced and became a third. 50 years of revenue across every format there is. $5,000 each once in cash.

The 5th of February, 1977. Edith Ewing Bouvier Beale died that day at the age of 81. Her daughter was 59 and for the first time in her adult life she was alone.

What she did next is the detail worth keeping. She left the room she had shared with her mother, moved into a smaller one elsewhere in the building, and put a mattress on the floor. That is where she slept from then on.

Then she stayed for two more years. She did not have to. There were buyers. There had been buyers for years.

In January of 1978, Little Edie went into Manhattan and did the thing she had been talking about since the age of 19. Reno Sweeney was a nightclub on West 13th Street. She was booked for eight performances across five nights.

Little Edie was 60 years old on stage with a fever and not long after an operation on her eyes. The notices were cruel. The New York Times ran a review that called the act a public display of ineptitude.

The club kept the reviews away from her. She never knew.

The following year, she sold. The place had gone on the market at $500,000. Offers came in. The most straightforward money belonged to buyers who wanted the ground and not the structure. Every one of those offers meant demolition.

She turned them down and took less. Sally Quinn, a journalist, and her husband Ben Bradlee, then executive editor of the Washington Post, paid $220,000 in 1979. Written into the agreement was a stipulation that they would not tear the building down.

That clause is the last decision Little Edie ever made about that address. It was not sentiment. It was a woman with no money and no leverage in her 60s sitting across from buyers offering more. She took the worst deal in order to control what happened after she was gone.

Little Edie went south. A rented cottage in Southampton first, then a studio apartment on East 62nd Street in Manhattan from 1980 until 1983. Then Miami Beach. Then Montreal for a while, so she could work on her French. A stretch with relatives in Oakland followed, and late in 1997, she settled in Bal Harbour, Florida.

She wrote poetry, and the letters kept arriving from strangers who had watched the film and needed to tell her what it had done to them. Every one of them got a reply. She swam almost every day into her 80s.

Around the New Year of 2002, the letters and calls stopped being answered. Friends telephoned the building. Somebody was sent up to check.

She was found on the 14th of January, 2002, at 84 years old. The estimate was that she had died about five days earlier of a stroke or a heart attack, alone in a small apartment a long way from Long Island.

The burial was at Locust Valley, near her younger brother, rather than beside her mother.

And the building she had taken $180,000 less to protect was still standing.